i consider the following to be the highest task in the relation between two people:for one to stand guard over the other's solitude.if the essential nature of both indifference and the crowd consists in the non recognition of solitude,then love and friendship exist in order to continually furnish new opportunities for solitude.

and only those commonalities are true that rhythmically interrupt deep states of loneliness...
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Rainer Maria Rilke.